Tuesday, May 04, 2010

letting go...

There are times when no matter how much we show our love and give so much of ourselves to someone, we still cannot find enough reason why he or she doesn't seem to care about us. He must have loved you at the beginning, but when he began to weigh your differences he realized that you were probably not the kind of perso...n he'd be compatible with, and one he'd want to spend the rest of his life with.

When we start assessing the value of someone, quantifying and qualifying the kind of person he or she is, we begin to lose grasp of the real essence of love. Real love doesn't look at reasons to love. When we truly love a person, we just love that person regardless of what he or she can or cannot give us back. When we start to have reasons for loving someone, then we're bound to fall out of love when we lose these reasons. It has been said that the greatest measure of love is its ability to continue loving even when we cannot find a reason to love anymore. That is the real essence of love. When we can think of one reason not to love a person, then we can't be capable of truly loving because love doesn't keep a scale of what it can gain from a relationship. Real love is unselfish.

If he put more weight on the kind of person he thinks you are and the kind of family he thinks you have ---- He doesn't love you. He can only love you if you become the person he wants you to be. And you cannot be that person. You shouldn't even be that person. You are who you are and you should be loved not for what someone wants you to be but for who you truly are.

Wish him well and move on with you life. Let your bittersweet memories remind you of how much you have loved, but let it also remind you how much more beautiful it would be if that love is shared with someone who will accept you for who you are, and love you not for what you can become but what he becomes because of you.

by:distancedoesn'tmatteriftwoheartsareloyaltooneanother :)

1 comment:

.h.o.p.e. said...

best of luck beb!
May Allah Bless